Risky Child Behaviors

Learned Behaviors of Arrogance

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It is doubtful that any infant enters this world with a sense of entitlement or arrogance. Arrogance is a characteristic that needs to be learned and practiced for a child to develop in that manner. With all the arrogant adults around it would seem parents and society are doing a fair job raising arrogant children? Is that the goal? It seems doubtful, and still it seem that arrogance is becoming a more common trait. Society seems to be succeeding in the creation of arrogant children.

An arrogant child may display some of these characteristics.

*Tend to be proficient in at least one particular area (music, mathematics, sports)

*Often don't follow rules, feel like they are above the law

*Generally bright

*Show superiority by demeaning those around them

*Disrespectful to authority figures (parents, teachers, policeman, coaches)

*Judgmental of others, only associates with those who can be controlled, must be the leader of the pack

*In general they are rude, self-centered, selfish and competitive

Since  they don't arrive that way, what are adults doing to help the acquire arrogance as one of their basic traits.

When children are small families may  think it's cute or even clever when they show some signs of arrogance. They may come up with a really funny sarcastic remark beyond their years and the response is  laughter.There is a need to be careful as these are the first signs of arrogance.

Parents sometimes encourage arrogance in our children without recognizing what they are doing until they have an arrogant brat on our hands. What is it that are doing?

"Stacy, please come and sing for everyone. You have the very best voice and everyone loves to hear you sing." There is a fine line between being proud of children and building a healthy self esteem and creating an arrogant monster. How could this be rephrased to make the introduction more appropriate? "Stacy has been practicing a song, would you like to hear her sing?" Now no one is going to say that they don't want to hear the child sing, but there was no over inflation in the statement made.

Truly arrogant children have ways of letting everyone know that they are superior and they are usually quite tactless and almost always insensitive. The same rules of social graces do not apply to their greatness. Parents need to knuckle down and establish a clear line between self confidence and bragging.

If your child is displaying arrogance it's time for emergency intervention. This behavior needs to stop now and it begins at home with the family and parents. Then it moves to school teachers and friends.

Determine why, what, when, and where this arrogance is displayed and put a stop to it. It is time for revamping the parenting techniques.

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