A touchy and complicated topic to dwell early on in childhood, homosexuality can be, nevertheless, detected early enough in children by their very perceptive parents (and other adults in the extended family). But adults have to be open-minded to ideas and be reasonably practical in accepting that children still have a long way to go before finally becoming adults. There’s still a lot that can be done meaningfully between now and the future. And parents have to remember that homosexuality is a normal occurrence even in other members of the animal kingdom. The trait’s no different from finding out your child is left handed, ambidextrous, has pigeon feet, or has special needs requiring particular approach in child-rearing, among other traits that may show up sooner or later.
There’s no perfect assurance that what parents observe in their children now will persist through adulthood. You know people change in time (though not in the same rate together), which you can have the luxury to observe best and up close with children. But, if in case, you’re a parent who’s worried (or maybe just preparing yourself for eventualities) if your child will turn out homosexual or not, a few helpful areas you may want to focus on include:
1) Sensitivity and the willingness to explore – the child who’s been behaving to be extra sensitive to certain external factors may show good indicators on his / her eventual sexual orientation. Boys have been observed to explore their sexuality early on, with other boys. And children, being naturally creative, still are able to show early signs of their preferences, on particular creative activities. Observable aptitudes on musicality, listening, dancing, on drawing, on communication, on those showing high motor skills coordination, on singing, on role playing and acting, on impersonating, on playing musical instruments – these show directions on where children may discover their special abilities that may also be best and freely expressed in their preferred “sexuality” as they take their time to grow.
2) Playing – observe which games your children prefer to play on, or among themselves – they can be hallmarks on whatever awaits you, eventually, about them. Although stereotypical in a manner of thinking, little boys and girls have been observed to be playing with certain types of toys – of course, this maybe largely due to the kind of toys provided to them. If you’ve observed and heard about children making out with items that are not strictly toys, you’ll have the opportunity to infer accordingly. For example, little boys may find out and play with their Mother’s clothes, make-up, shoes, and bags, and try them on not only twice – you may tell yourself that these little boys may probably lead lives that you fear about now.
3) Inflict of pain and abuse – children who have been abused may have been unknowingly scarred, to some extent, such that the psychological wounds (although maybe healed in time) may still persist in the form of hurt feelings when they grow to become adults. This maybe simplistic, but we’ve heard anecdotes as well as have been told first hand about sad stories on childhood experiences. They particularly involve highly disturbing stories on children who have been abused sexually (though people generally react to situations, individually). They may have been irreparably “damaged” consequently, and choose to lead “homosexual lives” in due course.
4) Absence of positive role model among adults in the child’s world – this refers to the absence of either/or both parents who are responsible and have not shown consistently in their own persons what they were telling their children (more occasions than usual), e.g. “do as I tell you, and not on what you see on me” complex. This can also be observed from having a more dominant parent over the other. The imprint of what children see in their parents remains even beyond the years of childhood. This absence will negatively contribute to more confusion and questions on varied roles to play and assume when children have become adults.
Meanwhile, with time still on your hands, if you’re a parent, you may shower your child with much love, time, and watchful attention to the utmost of your abilities and resources. Let your partner do his / her own share of parental responsibilities, too. Seek your State’s support on social work, if necessary. Seek professional help if this topic is among your biggest fears as a parent, especially with news you hear about bullying being done towards young homosexuals. Your children will always understand that they have someone to lean on, someone to guide them well, and someone who will accept them unconditionally, even when they turn out to be homosexuals, in time.