Teenagers have ways in showing what they feel, what they say and what they do. They will do everything just to get what they want, if they did not get it. They will do anything inappropriately. They become rebellious. Teenage rebellion is set of behavioral traits that take over any class, culture, gender and race. It’s part of their development into young adults.
Humans start to develop their own identity, and demand independent decision making without the interference of parents, family or guardian.
Teenage rebellion is all about achieving a sense of identity. They experiment with different roles, behaviors and ideologies as part of developing their identities. This is the stage where the role of confusion comes in and gives them a hard time to choose what they like. It’s either they are pressured by friends, or whatever they are seeing in the television, reading what’s in the papers and listening to the radio makes the changes on these teens. There is another other reason such as how the parents raised them.
There are ways on how to deal with teenage rebellion.
Parents must form a strong bond with the teens, so that they would be willing to open up and talk comfortably on what they feel. The closeness that the teens feel with the parents can reveal all the problems and confusion inside.
Parents must not mind how they look. The teen experiments on what they should be wearing. Some of them would wear their hair in different colors, shave their hair, make it into mohawk. They wear short skirts, heavy make-up and high heels. Some of them would wear an all black outfits like they are about to join cults. Just let them be. They are still finding who they are, so they join groups where they think they belong.
Parents and adults must be involved with the teens. Spend time with them doing fun. Watch movies, listen to music, and have a vacation together. Spend more time with them. Eat together, have coffee and other activities you can do with them.
Welcome the teen’s friends in your house so that you know to whom they are hanging out with. Be a good host. It’s better if the friends hang out at your house rather than hanging outside. Let them play games, watch movies or create music.
Avoid yelling and pleading. It would only make the matters worse. Teens would rebel more, whenever the teen wants something don’t always say “no.” Be wise if possible say “yes.” Be consistent and fair.
Determine the behavioral or mental disorder. Seek professional counseling if you are not able to handle the situation well.
Be a good listener. Listen to what they have to say. Don’t judge them.
Parents and adults must understand. They are not the only teens who are rebellious and you were able to experience it as well. Talk to them about what you went through as a teen.
Be a good role model to them. What they see is what they imitate.
Most teens experience this stage in their lives. They encounter identity crisis, peer pressure, self esteem, and acceptance and relationship issues. Parents must guide them properly without hurting their feelings. They are fragile. Handle it with care.